There is so much out there on how to get your child to behave. But recent studies have shown that parents want so much more than this. They want to know how to have the best possible relationship with their child, and this is what these films are all about. They will equip you with a whole host of fun packed ways of connecting, communicating and being together, proven to be vital not only for bonding but for brain development. So if you want the best possible relationship with your child, these films will give you a fabulous menu of ideas, not only to enrich your relationship now, but as an investment for life.


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The Centre for Child Mental Health:

CONVERSATIONS THAT MATTER. Talking with children and teenagers in ways that help.


The latest book by Dr Margot Sunderland, offers a wealth of tools and techniques to empower practitioners and parents to connect to children and teenagers through conversation, in life changing ways. Packed with creative possibilities, and illustrated with numerous ‘conversations’, this book can be returned to again and again whilst helping children and teenagers work through any painful life issue, past or present. The book also contains photocopiable worksheets. A ‘must-buy’ for any adult who want the conversations they have with children and teenagers to genuinely help, and to matter.

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The Parent - Child Relationship Spa (devised by Dr Margot Sunderland) 

enchanted-house-logo-set The main goal of the Parent-Child Relationship Spa is to equip parents and carers with the tools to nourish their relationships with a fabulous  take home repertoire of activities for that vital quality time. Like all spas, it’s a wonderful pampering environment uniquely designed to enhance parent- child bonding and brain development. (Age range: Babies and children up to nine years of age). No actual jacuzzis or saunas, but sensory rooms for parent child couples to be transported together into blissful states of awe and wonder,and exciting taught sessions on relational games and communication strategies that can be used to deepen parent child bonds long after you leave.  There is also live theatre, surprise visits from fantasy characters, messy play, small world play, drumming zone, dressing up,  snacks and refreshments on tap  (one and half hour sessions every Wednesday, pre-booking essential


Upcoming Conference 2017

Margot will be presenting at the following conference at The Centre for Child Mental Health, (2-18 Britannia Row, London N1 8PA).

Saturday 30 September 2017 (10.00-16.30): Creative Connections for Healing Troubled Children (mindfulness, attachment play, animals, nature and key empathy tools)

This highly creative conference presents some of the most delightful cutting-edge and evidence-based interventions proven to heal troubled children and teenagers, particularly those with familiar diagnoses such as ADHD, autism spectrum disorder or learning difficulties. For some children conventional counselling or talking therapy does not work. It is understood that we need to think more in terms of what or who can make life-changing connections with these children.

Stable Relationships provides educational and therapeutic training courses and activities for schools, community groups, fostering agencies, families, youth offending teams and individuals. All activities focus on building relationships to inspire learning. They include horses visiting schools to teach emotional intelligence, horse and creative-based training for professionals working with children and young people who are traumatised, activities to help work with the effects of trauma such as meditation, drumming and gardening.

Dogs, Chickens and Other Animals for Children and Young People with Social, Emotional and Behavioural Difficulties

Dr Coral Harper is an expert in helping children with attachment difficulties - to rebuild attachments through being with animals. Her organisation, Better Out Than In (, works to enhance the emotional well-being of children and young people including those who struggle to engage in learning, through connection with animals and nature in a wide range of settings.

Mindfulness for Children and Teenagers Suffering from Stress or Anxiety

Dr Jodie Lambert works as an Educational Psychologist and has conducted qualitative research exploring children’s experiences of mindfulness. She has created a mindfulness-based programme which is accessible to children with Autistic Spectrum Condition. Jodie will discuss how mindfulness can help young people to develop the ability to calm themselves, to pay attention to themselves in the world and to think about and reflect upon their actions and relationships. These practical skills can help build resilience and manage anxiety and stress through increased sensory awareness, regulation of emotions and attention and acceptance of thoughts and feelings.

Attachment Play/Accompanied Drumming/The Big Empathy Drawing

Dr Margot Sunderland will use the latest neuroscience research, and illustrated throughout with delightful footage, this presentation is designed to help children who find forming attachments difficult. Attachment play is play where the adult-child relationship is the absolute focus. All the communicative tools and ideas for attachment play support children to feel, over time, psychologically safe enough to develop trust and understand that a relationship can be about pleasure, fun and comfort rather than fear, stress and emotional dysregulation. In addition, Dr Margot Sunderland will uncover the amazing research on why accompanied drumming is so effective for many children who suffer from stress, attention, concentration or social and emotional problems. Finally she will equip delegates with the tools and techniques for her highly effective intervention: The Big Empathy Drawing.

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'Helping Children of Troubled Parents' and 'Monica Plum's Horrid Problem'

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The titles in this extraordinary series are a vital resource. Nine practical guidebooks, each with an accompanying beautifully illustrated storybook, have been written to help children (aged 4-12) think about and connect with their feelings. These guides and stories enable teachers, parents and professionals to recognise the unresolved feelings behind a child's behaviour and to respond correctly to help. Each guidebook focuses on a key feeling and is written in very user-friendly language. The exercises, tasks and ideas for things to say and do are specifically designed to help children think about, express and process the feeling to the point of resolution.

This guidebook offers readers a wealth of vital theory and effective interventions for working with these children and, specifically, the key feelings such children need help with. Particular focus is given to the effects on children of:

  • Family breakdown
  • Separation and divorce
  • Witnessing parents fighting
  • Parents who suffer from depression or anxiety, mental or physical ill-health, alcohol or drug addiction.

The two books 'Bothered' and 'Helping Teenagers with Anger and Low Self-Esteem' are based on years of experience working in adolescent units and underpinned with all the latest theory in psychology and neuroscience.

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'Bothered' aims to empower people to have thoughtful, reflective conversations with teenagers about their life experiences. The book is full of tools and techniques for what to say and how to be when having conversations with teenagers, underpinned by the latest research, psychology and neuroscience in adolescent development. The exercises will help teenagers to move towards real self-awareness, better self-esteem and the ability to thrive. The book offers a key assessment tool, 'The Teenager Well-Being Profile'. If the teenager is struggling in some areas, the Well-Being Profile will show clearly which life skill they need support in. The accompanying worksheets address key feelings, issues and concerns common to teenagers, enabling adults to talk with teenagers in a confident, non-embarrassing and effective way. This book provides an opportunity for transformational conversations with young people aged 11-18 that will really make a difference.

53bed31cb74891ae64a31e4c592ef86d MHelping Teenagers with Anger & Low Self-Esteem [Paperback]

Many teenagers who suffer from anger, anxiety and low self-esteem need help from understanding adults. Without this help, painful feelings can often overwhelm them, badly affecting their emotional health, their relationships with parents and peers, their schoolwork and quality of life. This comprehensive resource contains vital theory and practice, tools and techniques as well as case studies from contributors with extensive hands-on experience of working with troubled young people.

  • Practical ideas for creating and building connections.
  • Learn how to initiate and develop transformative conversations.
  • Offers tried-and-tested therapeutic interventions.
  • Understand what lies behind aggressive behaviour. - Help teenagers address their feelings so they don't act them out in a destructive manner.
  • Learn why teenagers can move from painful feelings to anti-social behaviour.
  • Understand key psychological research and the brain science behind troubled feelings and behaviour in adolescence.
  • Gain key parenting skills.
  • The extensive selection of illustrated worksheets and exercises have been developed in consultation with teenagers themselves, and will be a vital aid to helping young people deal with their feelings.

Contributors: Louise Bartel; Lynne Davis; Alison Eldridge; Tracy Godfroy; Dom Guard; Margot Sunderland; Louis Sydney. A vital resource for all professionals and parents who seek to reach and help teenagers who struggle with anger, anxiety and low self-esteem.


Course designed by Margot. Certificate/Diploma in Parent-Child Therapy

picture-two"I am passionate about this course. It is totally unique. So often, just like couples, parents and children get stuck in their relationship and they need help to get unstuck and move on.

This course is about enabling professionals to empower parents with a kind of relationship repair tool kit!  The course will also resource professionals to help a parent and child talk together in ways that can enable the two people to become close and connected again, ending often literally years of alienation or harbored resentments”  (Margot Sunderland)

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The Centre for Child Mental Health (Director Margot Sunderland) supports an orphanage in North Uganda run by a former child soldier. The orphanage has no other aid.

David Taransund a former student at The Institute for Arts in Therapy and Education (co founding director Margot Sunderland) has just come back after spending time at an orphanage in Uganda.  He used art therapy, puppets, drawing and play, to heal traumatised child soldiers and their victims.  Currently the orphanage has absolutely no aid from any of the big charities. Before David’s visit, the orphanage had only one book for a 100 children and no toys. The children sleep on  cow dung (it keeps the snakes away). The Centre for Child Mental Health has just paid for toys, books and art materials to be sent. They have also paid for 100 beds (see final picture)












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Dr Margot Sunderland (Award winning Author and Expert in Child Development, Child Psychology, Child Psychotherapy , and Parenting.

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Forthcoming Public Lectures

Saturday 30 September 2017 (10:00-16.30)
CREATIVE CONNECTIONS FOR HEALING TROUBLED CHILDREN (mindfulness, attachment play, animals, nature and key empathy tools)
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Saturday 20 January 2018 (10:00-16.30)
BUILDING RESILIENCE: USING KEY TOOLS, TECHNIQUES AND INTERVENTIONS WITH CHILDREN AND TEENAGERS (positive psychology, stress management, CBT, mindfulness, 'The Big Empathy Drawing')
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Contact Information

2-18 Britannia Row
London N1 8PA

Tel: 0207 354 2913

Please note: due to major time constraints Margot regrets she is unable to offer a personal advisory service on parenting or child development issues.

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